Monday, February 8, 2010

Question #2 - how many children do we want? Will I carry them all? Are Angela and I married, if not do we plan on marrying?

Right at this point in time, Angela and I would like one child. Maybe eventually two. Our plan is for me to carry any children that we have. Angela really has no desire to experience being pregnant. She would however carry children if for some reason it turns out that it is an impossibility for me. I have always wanted to experience pregnancy and am very excited that we are trying hard to make this happen at this point in our lives.
Angela and I are not married. Well common law I suppose, but not legally. We do talk about getting married some day. Meaning signing the papers and declaring our commitment to one another in the presence of friends and family. We wouldn't like anything big and fancy just a simple ceremony up north one summer. We are committed to a lifetime together. There are a few things in the way of an official wedding. First, we don't want to acquire any further debt to have our wedding. Secondly, Angela has never officially come out to her parents. We are certain that they know and even accept it in their way (and without discussing it outwardly). Angela's mom has at one point said (while on some heavy pain killers during a stay in the hospital for the cancer) that she loves Angela, but that she wouldn't attend her lesbian wedding. Angela at this point isn't ready to have a wedding without her mom.

2 comments:

Stacey said...

Hey, thanks for answering. :) Well, she sure will be out when you have a baby! Hehehe. That's one thing about kids--their existence outs you everywhere. Just think--signing up for daycare, they know you're a two mom family. And when your kid talks about having two moms in the grocery store... :P

Some people don't get married because, as you stated, you're common-law. I just wondered if it was something you wanted. I totally agree on the debt part of it. You should do it Vegas style. ;) We had a small 80 person wedding--small because we didn't go all out and spend a lot. $10k still though...

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